Thursday, March 31, 2016

Walk in My Shoes!

“You don’t live in my body. You don’t experience the struggles and wounds it carries. You don’t wake up every day with my thoughts and you don’t go to bed every night with my demons. You don’t know the burdens they impose or the distress and weight of the feelings they generate. As someone who is not me, you know very little about what it’s like to experience my reality — so you don’t get to dictate what should and shouldn’t be difficult for me. You don’t get to determine my needs and capabilities, and you sure as hell don’t get to decide the validity of my boundaries and self-care. I am the expert of my life. If I struggle with something, then I struggle with it. My experience isn’t right or wrong. It just is, and it’s mine — a fact that that makes my struggles real and true and valid. Your abilities and opinions are irrelevant in regards to my own. There is nothing wrong with me. I’m not weak or inadequate for struggling with things you don’t personally find challenging. And I’m no longer going to compromise myself to accommodate your narrow perception of human experiences. I know who I am and what I’m capable of. I know my limits and needs. And I know that I deserve better than someone who tries to convince me to abandon the things I need to take care of myself."~Daniell Koepke of Internal Acceptance Movement


  1. The succeed or else crap has gotten on my nerves. I am staying away even from Lipedema support boards with their promises of false miracles. I am tired of being told I am not enough in so many places. Perhaps in my case I have had to embrace being an underachiever to survive but I'm tired of being pummeled. All these people can kiss my butt and jump in the lake.

  2. I'm going to write this down and keep it. Its good for me to remember. I sometimes feel like I'm not where I should be at, but then I realize being tortured almost to death. Never feeling safe, secure is the least of it. Of course I don't feel safe, how could I?

  3. Do you have any nude pictures of your brother?

  4. you wanna buy some?

  5. Do we have a Jonsi sighting? I'm still waiting on bigfoot.
    And the loch ness monster!

    1. [whispering behind you] If you're real quiet and you wait patiently, every once in a while, a Jonsi will emerge from her nest and come into view.


  6. I can always feel your strength, Jonsi!