The only reason people had anything to do with my mother was to get a shot at the proceeds from our farm. And in the end that wasn't enough for me and my sister to get anywhere near her. The thing is that if she had spent her time working her own job she would have had plenty of money on the square. She was just too lazy to do anything but hustle others. So she squandered her whole life waiting for a finite payoff
I think my old mans been secretly pushing me to go NC for years, he's certainly not attempting to get me back, too much of a bad influence on me Mum (ie strong) or as he would eventually brainwash her to believe (a bolshy bitch)he knew if he kept secretly pushing my buttons i would snap but of course not so anyone else could see, all very covert & sneaky...
When I made the mistake of responding to a call for help from my NF after 3 years of NC, he pushed me out for good by accusing me of only going to help because I wanted to steal his money by forging POAs...etc, etc! For me it was finally done and done, then a few days later, the idiot called and asked for my help again!The NGC orchestrated the whole thing and now he's stuck with the sole responsibility for the old man blames me. Another idiot!
Does NGC see him for what he is? Or does NF have a different face for NGC?
The NGC has experienced and witnessed the rages and verbal abuse but about 5 years ago suddenly turned to the dark side. Guess who really wants the old man's money? Not me, although, I as the family doormat/caretaker I sure as hell earned it.
There must be some pay off for NGC or else he would be siding with you and the hell away from him. Money just shows them for what they really are. My ex's greed knows no bounds. She would definitely kill someone if she could get away with it. If that sounds like hyperbole I am sure no one thought my mother could/would put a price tag on life but she did 10K was what human life meant to her.
The old man showed me the "books" for the 1st time last fall. Up until then the NPs had bragged for years about all the money they would be leaving us. After seeing how much there actually was I was stupid enough to give the old man a reality check. That's when the NGC floated the notion that I'd been stealing and the old man bought it.
Ah yes the inheritance, I guess a whole hunk of money is quite a sweetener...good luck to them eh? X
Shhhhh....the second idiot doesn't know there really never was a lot of money and what there was is almost gone because the older they got the more my narc parents tried to impress people by living well beyond their means in an over-priced fancy ass retirement residence!Once he sucked me back to crazyland, the old man thought he'd keep me there by revealing the size of his fortune to me for the very 1st time. My parents dangled this carrot in front of their kids for years maybe thinking that's why we put up with their BS. When I realized the old man would be broke within two years I couldn't hide my shock. Next up, the NGC tells him I've been stealing his money. What money, idiot?
Narc survivor.......The instant our farm money got into my mothers hands it had the blood of too many people on it to suit my tastes. Add that to the fact I would have to do battle in court yet again to get something from my ex that was rightfully mine was nauseating to the point of taking ipecac. If they worship money over humanity I will leave them to count their gods.
Its sad. Pitiful. Their ego centred lives brought them nothing but pain & they didn't even realise it & they will revel that its their final revenge but we escaped with our integrity & gained love, their money is better off staying with em. We are richer than they have EVER been.
N Survivor. If money bought happiness you would think they would be ecstatic, but I have never seen two more miserable people in my life. They think everyone thinks like they do. And they all are looking for a way to hustle money that belongs to someone else. So they think everyone is trying to shake them down too. In my world a rising tide lifts all ships, in theirs it's do it to the other guy before he does it to you.
Ah how right you all were about being on that merry go round. My 13 year old implied I had ruined the family by going NOC. That he says his Grandads funny, tells great stories & buys him presents & is never mean to him so how unfair it is of me to cause trouble. I've lost my Mum, I'm loosing Golden brother & now I see my kids think I'm an arsehole, all because I'm not a sap. I feel so helpless. It really is one step forward, two back. I wish I'd realised when they were small my Dad was a Narcissistic Sociopath, I never would have let him near them. Its the only way he can hurt me & my sons wanting to walk right into the trap. What on earth can I do?