Even
though we’ve struggled with the idea of maintaining absolutely no contact, many
of us have found out the hard way that leaving the door open even by a sliver
is an invitation for our abusers to hoover us back down the rabbit hole into
their version of Crazyland. Strict no contact robs them of a chance to
manipulate us and is the essential step required to protect ourselves from further
abuse.
No
contact is the ultimate punishment we can inflict on narcissists, which is
one of the reasons they simply cannot let us go! Ignoring narcissists robs them of
the chance to devalue and demean us which they desperately need to do in order
to maintain THEIR exaggerated sense of
worth.
Narcissists' panicked reactions to our sudden indifference will dispel all doubts
about the value of no contact for; they will be unable to function without the
unhealthy dynamic they've created with us. They label their victims as inferior,
while behind the scenes they simply can’t live without our “presence” in THEIR miserable lives, even if that presence is maintained by visiting a blog almost daily, drawing
a child-like caricature, repeatedly calling a blocked number or sending an
email stupidly admitting their misdeeds.
How empowering for us that, many narcissists, when trying to prove that we are
unimportant to them, do just the opposite by revealing how much space
we occupy “rent free” in THEIR heads instead of the other way around!
An
extended period of no contact eventually turns the tables by making
narcissists realize that we find them irrelevant, dispensable and somewhat
pathetic. Their punishment is complete when they realize their favourite doormat has simply gotten up off the floor and walked away. (Fortunately for them, new doormats are quite reasonably priced at Walmart.)
FUCK 'EM!
